God speaks your love language (by Gary Chapman)

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I reread Gary Chapman’s classic book ‘The five love languages’ a couple of years ago. For some time I had been thinking I should reread another of his books, ‘God speaks your love language’. I had entirely forgotten that I last read it as recently as 2022. It didn’t really matter, as I hadn’t remembered much of what was in it anyway.

The theory of love languages is very helpful to a lot of people, although the older I get, the harder it is for me to figure out what my main ‘love language’ is. Perhaps I’ve become better at two or three others, or perhaps I appreciate different ones in different stage of my life. In a sense, it doesn’t matter: I’m aware of the five broad ways in which love can be expressed, and try, where possible and appropriate, to use them all. 

The idea behind it is that a lot of couples don’t feel love because they speak different love languages. If one partner has ‘acts of service’ as their main love language, and the other has ‘words of affirmation’, they might entirely miss that the other person is trying to express love. Trying to speak the other person’s language can revolutionise a stressful romantic relationship. It’s also important to speak our children’s love languages - or, ideally all of them - so that they know they’re loved.

Reluctant Phoenix (by Helen Parker)

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I had read two of Helen Parker’s novels for older children, and liked her writing style very much. I saw that she had written a novel for adults, so put it on my wishlist and was given it for Christmas. I’ve been reading ‘Reluctant Phoenix’ over the past few days.

There are two main protagonists, Heather and Beth. They’re around the same age, I assume in their early twenties, but very different in personality. And in the first few chapters we meet them in very different circumstances.

At the start of the book, Heather is studying Arabic in Cairo, in January 2011. This is when the Egyptian revolution began, and Heather is caught up in it right at the start. She’s initially nervous, then worried… then makes a bad decision which ends in disaster for one of her friends. 

The chocolate run (by Dorothy Koomson)

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It’s over fifteen years since I read ‘The chocolate run’ by Dorothy Koomson. I’m starting to reread her novels, and couldn’t remember anything about this one. The title appeals, as does the byline on the front: ‘Who needs love when you’ve got chocolate?’ 

However, while chocolate is somewhat significant in this book, it’s mostly about intimate relationships, not all of which were based on love. The main protagonist - and narrator - is a young woman called Amber. I liked her, on the whole. She’s a cautious person who is loyal to her friends, and conflict-avoidant. She likes to be a peacemaker whenever possible, and tends to make jokes rather than get caught up in serious conversation. 

And she loves chocolate. She likes the smell, and the sensations of it melting. When she meets a new person, she associates them with a particular form - or bar - of chocolate. Sometimes she realises she’s wrong, or that the person has extra layers, but it’s a clever method of showing her impression of people without too much description. 

The Bible Jesus read (by Philip Yancey)

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I’ve appreciated and liked reading all the books I’ve collected by Philip Yancey, over the years. I’ve reread most of them at least once. The one I found least memorable was ‘The Bible Jesus read’, which I read in 2008. It was well overdue for a reread; all I could remember about it was that it related to what is generally known as the Old Testament (the Hebrew Scriptures). 

I’ve read about half a chapter per day over the past couple of weeks. The introductory chapter asks why we should read, or at least be familiar with the older parts of the Bible. Christians, after all, focus mainly on Jesus. His life, ministry and death are covered in the four gospels, and the rest of the New Testament explains the growth of the early church, and instructions for lifestyle, worship, and so on. 

But, as Yancey points out with examples, Jesus himself was familiar with the Jewish Scriptures. He quotes them several times, and expects his followers to know the context and background. So as a most basic tenet, if we are following Jesus, we should read the Scriptures that he read, as well as the more recent ones. 

The exiles at home (by Hilary McKay)

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It’s a long time since I read ‘The exiles at home’ by Hilary McKay. I don’t know why I left it so long, as these books are thoroughly enjoyable. I reread the first book in the series, ‘The exiles’, at the end of December, so I felt as if the characters were familiar to me. Hilary McKay’s writing is excellent; she has a gift of characterisation, which makes her people memorable. 

Ruth is the oldest of the Conway offspring. She’s thirteen at the start of the book, and tries to be responsible. But she has a tendency to act without thinking. She is a very good artist, but generally uninterested in school. The next child, Naomi, is twelve, and her main interest is gardening. 

The ‘little ones’ are Rachel, who is nearly nine when this book opens, and Phoebe who is nearly seven. Rachel generally tries to stay out of trouble; she’s usually placid and practical. She’s also very keen on eating. Phoebe is much more intuitive and tends to drift through life with little interest in the consequences of her actions.