Sheet Music (by Kevin Leman)

(Amazon UK link)

I first came across Kevin Leman's books about eighteen years ago, when discussing parenting theories with friends. I borrowed his 'Birth Order Book' from the library, and found it interesting, although some of it didn't tie in at all with my own experience and observations. I also borrowed - and later bought - 'Making Children Mind without Losing Yours', which is perhaps his best-known volume on the topic of parenting. I thought some of the theories good, if rather too unyielding.

As my sons grew up and left home, I didn't expect to read any more of Leman's books, not realising that he had also written on other topics. So I was quite surprised when I saw this volume listed as one of the best-selling free Christian books available for the Kindle. I wasn't entirely sure what to expect from 'Sheet Music', but am always willing to try free downloads, particularly when written by an author I have read and liked in the past.

This book is on the subject of Christian marriage, and intimacy. It's clearly written from a Christian perspective, encouraging - and explaining the rationale behind - celibacy outside of marriage, and monogamy within. I agree with this perspective personally, but in the 21st century many don't. Those who disagree would probably find the repeated emphasis rather irritating. I basically skimmed those sections myself as they were somewhat repetitive.

The main part of the book is rather more explicit than most books about Christian marriage, even including a couple of anatomical diagrams. It was quite eye-opening in places, and thought-provoking too.

The importance of love and respect are clearly stated, and the author demonstrates a good understanding of some of the innate differences between men and women, while acknowledging that each individual - and each marriage - is unique.

Recommended, to any married couples, particularly Christians, who are fairly open-minded and not easily shocked by frank descriptions. The links is to a print edition of this book, although it's also available on Kindle (but no longer free).

Review copyright Sue's Book Reviews, 28th February 2011